i think it’s very subjective. it needs both the commentor and the person being commented’s EQ.
my teacher commented on my drawings before when i was in form 5, yet i scored the highest mark in my class for chemistry. so what? she commented and i improve myself.
you can’t always live in your own comfort zone and you can never control what people say. all you can do is to change your own mindset and prove to them that you are better than them, a lot better. if not, improve yourself.

no name ar…
juz wanna make things clear.. i wrote this blog not because i wanna complain how ppl treat me bad, i am juz trying to point out the wrong things we are doing everyday and how we can try to improve ourselves..

and in fact, i wasn’t really the one being criticized that day, precisely i was not being criticized when my friends visited me in Alor Star. i am juz giving a real example without revealing the name of my friends being treated like that.. oops
but anyway, ya u are right, critics make ppl more mature, but i am talking abt the ways to care abt others’ feeling. it’s not juz abt how well u can criticize other ppl, but it’s abt how effective u can help ppl to grow up by using the right words to criticize them. we couldn’t expect everyone to accept the rude ways of being criticized and be expected to grow up, right? ever heard of negative effects? it’s true, i have seen so many sad examples, even i myself was almost one of the victims, but luckily i did survive.. but u can’t expect everyone to be that lucky, can u?

every human is a unique individual with his/her own views in seeing things, some are tough enough to leave the comfort zone, some may juz fall off and become someone else, who knows? we don’t hv the rights to change anyone, do we? we are not even the Buddha, how true is your opinion? how dare we say that we are criticizing ppl because we want them to improve themselves?? yes we cannot control the saying of other ppl, and that’s why we should be conscious enough to remind ourselves, do good, and do no harm, we never have the rights to hurt other ppl!

however, the main point of this post of blog, is about consideration and caring for others’ feeling, not about how to criticize ppl effectively, neither is it abt how to face the critics, let’s not make our topics too extremely deviated

燕子，去读书啦，还看部落格…

不过，是啦，谢谢你的支持 考试加油啦！